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October 24, 2010



Very powerful, post Robin, thanks for sharing it.

Stephanie Schwarz

Thank you Robin for modelling self care. And also for your continued contributions to healing.

Deborah Woolley

Thanks, Robin, for speaking up about your distress as well as your remedies for it. I find it so comforting to know that I'm not alone in feeling close to despair sometimes and needing to consciously take measures to keep my soul alive. I especially like #11.

Robin Shapiro

Thanks, everyone, for your kind words.


Dear Dr. Shapiro,
I´m a (very slow) complex trauma survivor and I´d like to comment this post. (sorry about my language, not my mother tongue).

I´ve been troubled by the evilness of the mankind, both in a personal level and as a reader of newspapers. I used to have a cynical, pessimistic view of people, the future and life in general. I found this whole “world thing” a tragedy, or some kind of a sick joke.

Then, slowly, something changed. The most obvious change was psychotherapy that I started to attend. But the real changes were more subtle. Today I would call it some kind of a (re)connection to humanity. It was guided by love and affection. First I was a recipient, then started to show some myself. I think it could be called a rebirth.

Having experienced this kind of a reconnection and rebirth I can´t have that cynicism anymore. Having received all the true love and sincere compassion I would be blind and deaf if I continued to see people the way I did. Of course I still read my newspapers and hear unbelievably horrifying stories of the evilness people are capable of doing. But I think the things that the media tells us about the “achievements” of mankind are (at least in the cynical Europe) biased towards bad things. The goodness of people, it seems to me, tends to happen in a smaller scale. Not reached by the news. Love and true caring happen, as a rule, between individual people. And so does the healing of wounds. It might not be newsworthy, but that doesn´t make it less significant or rare.

I think it was the reformer Martin Luther who said that the line separating goodness from evilness isn´t found between people but within them. That I believe. And that also means that as human beings we will always be troubled by the evil inside us. But we will have the goodness as well. And sharing that goodness with a fellow human being can indeed result in remarkable things. As I´m sure you have witnessed.

I guess what I´m trying to say is: the things you undoubtedly do and cause (as a therapist and as a human being), reuniting people with the world, themselves and the mankind is a powerful proof of the goodness and hope we have in this world. After all, the humanity consists of single people - their distress and welfare. If single people didn´t matter, then wouldn´t the masses matter either. So, let´s not ignore “the everyday goodness” and its humble proofs. They, after all, save lives.

Thomas A

Robin Shapiro

Thanks for your thoughtful post. It lifts my heart to read about your journey.  (And by the way, your English is perfect.)


Hi Robin,
I attended two of your lectures at ISSTD and thought about how powerful they were. Then I came back and saw you were the same person that I had been reading on the UCLA conference blog...skipped a groove! I had a very fracturing experience too at ISSTD, so clinical and not a lot of heart. As a person with uncleared trauma it was tough. Really I am writing to say I absolutely love your site and have learned so much from it. Thank you for your generosity in sharing all your wisdom and experience..you are doing a lot of good in the world just by this.I wish I lived near you for professional work but am in SC for now. Considering a move to CA.


Robin Shapiro

Thanks Wendy. Ill check them out.

Samantha Jamison


Thank you for all of your valuable information. I plan to check out your book if its available. for sale


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